Nudism Improves Self-Esteem by Felicity Jones:
Being Nude and Nudism Enhances Self-Esteem – I was in the locker room at the Travasuns nude pool party, getting dressed to leave when another girl doing the same began openly lamenting her weight and figure. “I should drop some weight,” she said, “I wish I looked like you.” My reply was, “Now that’s the wrong attitude!”
Have you ever had somebody else envy your system, complain about specific parts of the bodies, or judge themselves out loud? They say things like, “I’m so fat,” “I wanna get extremely skinny / I should shed weight,” “I need to have a flat belly.” I have definitely spent a lot of time trying to convince buddies with low self-esteem which they were not “fat,” that their body and size were “normal,” and that they did not need to lose weight.
But it is not that simple to alter how http://modestperson.com/views/not-having-to-wear-those-annoying-bikinis-or-swimsuits.php feel about their bodies. Some folks, when they look in the mirror, start judging and criticizing themselves about every bit of flab and defect. They do not see what you see when they look in the mirror.
You may think that since I grew up as a nudist that I Had have great self-esteem and effortlessly feel good about my body. I did spend many of my summers in social nudism, but the rest of the year I was living in the fabric world. I read fashion and beauty magazines and still felt pressure to look good, wear trendy clothing and make up in school. I was quite shy and insecure (true still just a little shy occasionally). I was and still am lean, but that did not keep me from judging my own body and living with a fear of becoming fat.
I ‘d this awful mental habit of comparing my own body to those of other girls, from the ones I saw in real life to the versions in the magazines, to find out what I should look like. Am I as skinny as she’s? Do I have cellulite? Are my thighs too fat? I wish I had straighter lines in my personal figure like her. My friend, who also grew up as a naturist, developed an eating disorder in school, in spite of her deep engagement in naturism. It just goes to show how invasive the lanky=lovely notion is. Additionally, did anyone enter school in fear of gaining the “Freshman 15”? It doesn’t even exist.
Nudism Enhances Self-Esteem
Folks of any shape and size can feel horrible, inadequate and big-boned, and so many young women (and guys, but less so) are obsessed with getting skinny.
That’s what today’s beauty and fashion magazines are counting on to make money, from girls particularly. Many thanks, Ashley Judd, for recently standing up against the absurd puffy-face accusations and using it for dialogue about the objectification of women. She brings up an excellent point: women judge each other and participate in patriarchy, also!
But wait! You do not have to listen to all those messages telling you you’re not good enough, need to diet, or want plastic surgery! I would like to share this amazing video from Laci Green, sex-positive blogger and sex ed teacher, about having better self-esteem. Her advice can make a difference. Most women’s magazines are entirely focused on attractiveness / weight-loss advice (based on the premise that you’re never good enough), along with selling the products to help you with that.
Don’t even be deceived by the ones that print a small body-positive content because the rest of the magazine will contradict it. There are several good magazines out there, however. I recommend Bust magazine and Bitch magazine. Regardless of what magazine you are reading, it is great to remind yourself that all images on its pages happen to be airbrushed, edited and photoshopped (unless they explicitly state that they don’t engage in this practice). You are not looking at reality.
Also be aware of what you watch on TV. Notice which TV shows make you feel more self-conscious or induce http://nudismphotos.net/posts/i-never-told-my-wife/ about the body. Muffle the TV when commercials come on. You don’t know what messages you’re subconsciously picking up from advertisements while you’re sleeping or otherwise occupied.
Find next time you end up engaging in “fat talk” with your pals. Merely decide to not accomplish that anymore. Tell your friends it just makes you and them feel lousy. Alter the issue. Begin discovering your internal mind chatter, too, because you can learn to control your ideas.
If you end up criticizing another person’s body, nullify that idea and discover an attractive component instead. You’dn’t need someone criticizing you like that, would you? By judging others, you’re dis-empowering them and yourself. Whenever a negative thought comes up, change it to some positive one. Tell yourself that you don’t need to believe these ideas anymore. Think of a few positive statements (aka affirmations) that one can say to yourself every day, such as: My body is an excellent body. I adore and value myself. The greatest method to do that is to begin with statements which you don’t have a hard time considering.
For example, “I love my body” might too much to start with. Your head yak might say, “No, I really despise it!” So you could begin with something else like, or, It Is acceptable to love myself now as I continue to evolve. It takes a little time to eliminate negative thinking, especially when you have been replicating particular ideas for a long time.
See here for more affirmation thoughts. Use whichever ones resonate with you!
And my favourite piece of guidance from Laci: Get Nude! If you’re not a naturist, you may start going unclothed at home. Then, I believe among the BEST ways to feel good about yourself would be to see the beautiful, uncensored bodies of individuals in real life who are confident and cozy just as they are. This is one reason I love naturism.
You can also read Laci’s tips here.
Like this? Check out my posts, “Why Women Should See Other Women’s Nude Bodies” and “How To Look Good Naked.”
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Nudism Improves Self-Esteem by Felicity Jones: